Dating Website Advice

How to Make the Most of Online Dating


One in five relationships begins online these days, and there is no reason why you can't be a part of this successful revolution. Even if you don't meet the love of your life, Internet dating can be a fun and interesting experience if you go into it with a positive attitude and an open mind. There's no time like the present to get started.

How to Find the Right Dating Site

Online dating has become so popular that at times it can seem like there are too many choices. There is a niche site for just about anything you can think of, from singles over 40 to sites devoted to only certain religious beliefs or ethnic groups.

Think about your specific situation and what you are looking to get out of Internet dating. If you're looking to meet a lot of new people, but are not necessarily looking for anyone serious yet, then a general dating site is probably your best bet. However, if you're very specific about who you want to date, a niche site like "professionals over 35" may be better suited to you.

It All Starts with the Profile

In order to have a quality online dating experience, you need to take the time to create a quality profile about yourself. There is just no way around that. Creating a profile that is too general will only lead to frustration when the matches you get just don't seem to work. Think about what it would take for you to stop and look at your profile if you were scanning several pages worth of them.

Just like with any other piece of writing, you can make or break your profile in the first few words. Think of it like an article in a newspaper and consider what would make a potential date want to read more. What would summarize your profile in a few words? When you have answered that question, write a headline of no more than five words to let the other member know more about what they are going to read.

When it comes time to describe yourself, don't be shy. How do those who are closest to you describe you? Are you outgoing and funny or are you quiet and reflective? Aim for the use of adjectives to describe yourself and remember that the more descriptive you can be, the better.

Next, consider several activities you currently enjoy which could easily accommodate another person. You can also talk about things you haven't tried yet, but are open to exploring. Read some other profiles to ensure that you won't sound like everyone else. Creativity is key when it comes to having your profile stand out among the rest.

Once you are done describing yourself and uploading a picture, you will want to say a few words about the type of person you would like to meet. Try to focus here on what you would like to see and not create a list of everything you don't like about dating in general.

Making a Date

It can be awkward to know what to do next once an initial contact on a dating site has been made. If it feels like there could be a potential dating match, don't feel like you have to be in a rush to go out immediately. Take some time to get to know one another while you have the safety of anonymity. Always be polite and show interest in getting to know the other member by asking them open-ended questions. They should reciprocate and ask about you, although neither of you will want to be giving extensive personal information out just yet.

If the correspondence goes well, someone may suggest making a date. Assuming both of you are ready for that step, arrange to meet in a public place. Then just be yourself and see what becomes of it.